We decided to change things up today and focus on other areas in relationships.  This is from one of our Honey Trap agents who wish to remain anonymous and her experience with emotional abuse.  Emotional Abuse can also be a sign of infidelity. Whether it is or not, it is unacceptable.

Emotional Abuse in Relationships

            This is probably going to be the hardest article I will ever have to write, because I myself have been a victim of intense emotional abuse by certain people in my life that I believed and trusted would never hurt me.

And, the person that inflicted the greatest amount of emotional damage on me was my ex-husband.  He was both emotionally and physically abusive towards me, and if he hadn’t of been the one to ask me for a divorce, I don’t know when, or if, I would have ever been able to muster the courage to ask for one myself because of how worthless and insignificant I felt by that point in the relationship.  However, I do remember feeling like a huge weight had just been lifted off my shoulders when he asked me for the divorce, and I had to force myself to appear upset about it at the time!  You know it’s a horrible relationship when you have reached the point when you are more relieved than devastated to you learn that your spouse no longer wants to be with you! But, the sad part is, after the initial shock and awe wore off, I actually started beating myself up wondering what I had done to make him want a divorce!  Now, if that’s not total insanity I don’t know what is!

I mean, he verbally abused me so often that, at one point, I told my grandmother that I wished he would just hit me when he got mad at me instead of saying all the awful things he said over and over again, because his words cut so deep and hurt so bad.  And, looking back on it now, it makes me so sad to know that I ever thought something like that!  Nobody should ever allow themselves to get to a point in their marriage/relationship where they actually WISH to have one form of pain over another inflicted on them by their spouse/partner!  I mean, I just don’t get how anyone can be emotionally and/or physically abusive in a relationship and not know how much damage they are doing to their significant other?  And, even if you know deep down inside that your abuser is only hurting you because they are really just unhappy with themselves and they are projecting their unhappiness onto you, when they say something negative and/or condescending enough times, you will start to believe it, even if it couldn’t be further from the truth.

So, take it from someone that knows firsthand, if you are in an abusive relationship, run, don’t walk, and never look back!  No man or woman on this planet should ever give someone else the power to tell them how they should or shouldn’t think and feel about themselves!  Even if you truly love that person, I promise you, if they are being emotionally or physically abusive towards you, they don’t truly love you back.